12 Things To Stop Doing To Reclaim Your Inner Peace

Happiness is a conscious choice

Self Portrait. October 2020

“Nothing can disturb your peace of mind unless you allow it to.”

I really do believe that it’s our choice. Although, it’s not always a conscious one.

Here’s a list of 12 things I’ve stopped doing over the past few years that have made my mind a simpler place.

Looking at my phone first thing in the morning

Ever since I stopped doing this, my mornings have become a lot calmer and more productive. There are times when I sometimes give in to impulse and I’ve seen my day go for a toss then.

Holding on to the idea of forever

There is a famous story in Indian historical texts from the story of Emperor Akbar and his confidante Birbal, who was known for his wit and understanding of human behavior and psyche.

Arguing with people

How many times have you left an argument, more convinced that you’re right than ever before? Too many to count, right? Other people also feel the same way.

Wasting energy on one-sided relationships

All of us invariably go through one-sided relationships in our lives. It’s not just in the romantic sense. Friendships, family ties, colleagues — we’ve all faced this in some or the other area of our lives.

Holding on to people I’ve outgrown because of the time I invested in the relationships

One phrase: Sunk Cost Bias. This doesn’t just apply to economics and career success. It applies to every aspect of life, including relationships

Allowing dysfunctional family members to steal my joy / ruin my happiness

About 5 years ago, I consciously made a decision to limit my interaction with all of my relatives to birthdays and anniversaries. It was one of the best decisions I ever made.

Accepting or excusing toxic behavior because it was comfortable

This is a tough one. I still find myself falling prey to becoming comfortable with toxic behavior mostly because of the way we’re conditioned. But I’m working on it.

Not moving

Honestly, I don’t even know why I didn’t workout before!

Trying to not let people down

You can’t please everyone, all the time. It’s one of the most fundamental truths of life. And it’s taken me a better part of my 20s to realize this.

Keeping tabs on the news

Would you believe me that I was a journalist for the first half of my professional career?

Feeling guilty for resting and taking a break

This was again a result of childhood conditioning. Taking breaks as a child was often seen as this undesirable activity and we were applauded for going hours without taking one. And of course, we were made to feel guilty for taking breaks.

Making excuses for others

I am the kind of person who sees the good in people first and it takes a lot of negative experiences to change my opinion. As a result, I’ve made excuses for others for some very questionable behaviors.

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