12 Things To Stop Doing To Reclaim Your Inner Peace

Happiness is a conscious choice

Adete Dahiya
8 min readNov 17, 2020


Self Portrait. October 2020

As I inch closer towards turning 30, I’ve realized that the one thing I value the most in life is peace of mind. And I believe that all of us are striving to maintain our peace of mind at all times.

If you think about it, every time there’s a disturbance in our happy state, we work towards eliminating that disturbance so that you can go back to it.

Ultimately, every step that we take is to ensure that we maintain this state of peace somehow. What I’ve figured out — and I’m not a genius for doing so — is that it’s all dependent on our own heads and minds. Almost all of it anyway.

As Roy T. Bennet puts it:

“Nothing can disturb your peace of mind unless you allow it to.”

I really do believe that it’s our choice. Although, it’s not always a conscious one.

Typically, I handle emotional unrest quite well. But every so often things go for a toss. This past year (2020) is a prime example. And no, it’s not just because of COVID. Although the pandemic did add fuel to the fire. I had to move back in with my family after quitting my job last year, my first business failed to take off and then I started feeling quite lost. On top of that, my parents are going through a divorce and it’s getting uglier by the minute.

So, the better part of last year has been spent trying to find my mental balance and figure out ways to prevent disruptions to my peace of mind with everything that’s going on.

Here’s a list of 12 things I’ve stopped doing over the past few years that have made my mind a simpler place.

Looking at my phone first thing in the morning

Ever since I stopped doing this, my mornings have become a lot calmer and more productive. There are times when I sometimes give in to impulse and I’ve seen my day go for a toss then.

If you’re still doing this, stop. Seriously! There are several downsides to looking at your phone the first thing in the morning. In a 2018 article



Adete Dahiya

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