How I re-center myself during chaotic times

Aligning with my internal universe

Adete Dahiya


Over the past week or so, I’ve received a dozen DMs from people who are feeling overwhelmed and anxious with the current state of things. I won’t lie, I’ve been feeling many of the same things too.

So I thought, why don’t I attempt to address that with this article.

Inside my head is a beautiful place

With each passing day, the world we live in makes less and less sense. It’s rife with inconsistencies and contradictions. On the one hand, there is chaos and madness. But at the same time, we also see beautiful stories of connection, love, and kindness.

It can be quite disorienting and hard to figure out where to put our intentions and our faith.

Here are a few things that personally help me re-center and achieve a state of balance:

1. Remembering that I choose my reality

At any given moment, two things are simultaneously happening in life:

  • The thing/event/outcome that is taking place
  • What I choose to believe about the thing/event/outcome that is taking place.

Now out of these, I only really have control over what I choose to believe. And that is where my reality lies. That is also the reason that my reality is different from yours.

While this is not a solution to every problem in the world, coming back to this realisation helps me understand the power of my thoughts and take a more objective look at things.

2. Trusting my internal compass

There are many names for this: gut, intuition, vibe. It’s not something that’s well defined in scientific terms, strictly speaking.

But it’s fascinating how one can feel when something is right or not. One can feel if something aligns with your core beliefs or not.

When it comes to making sense of things happening around us, I’ve found this internal compass to be quite powerful. And it’s something I’ve come to rely on in unfamiliar, disorienting situations and with such people as well.



Adete Dahiya

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